Above is a funny YouTube video of Haile Gebrselassie racing past an opponent towards the finish line. The opponent slapped Haile on his back just before he crossed the finish line. That slap actually propelled Haile while it slowed down the opponent. Haile could have stopped to retaliate. If he did, he would have lost the race. He didn’t. He won. Ladies and gentlemen, this is emotional intelligence.

The Lay-off

There was a layoff at a company I previously worked for. I noticed that those that were cut from the company were not necessarily the weakest, in fact many of them possessed  greater skill than that of their peers. What kept people was, wait for it: relationships. Those that had great working relationships with their direct bosses, most likely stayed. Those that that didnt get along too well with their supervisor’s were – gone. Emotional Intelligence leads to better relationships. I’ve found in life, that success is not just a virtue of skill. Skill is very important don’t get me wrong, but your emotional handle and it’s effect on relationships is much more effective.

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is the ability to control one’s emotions. It’s an exalted way of living that heeds the principle, “When someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to him/ her, the other”. When you take a hit from someone, rather than stop and retaliate, allow that hit to propel you. In life, people who are going down, will say nasty things to you, just to take you down with them. They will do hurtful things to spur a retaliation from you. While you can’t always control their words, actions or preach them to repentance, you can control your reaction to them. You can display emotional intelligence at it’s finest by being cool, calm and collected – even under intense pressure. God commands you to be like Jesus Christ, who took emotional intelligence to another level on the cross. Asking forgiveness for those who had brutally beat and fatally hanged Him.

But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.  And if any man will sue thee at the law , and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also – Matthew 5:39-40